Oh man, I can't believe this. I just came on to the website to snoop around and check out Word Association and now this.
A couple of questions: Is this the chick from California? Why is she having these falling outs with people all over the place? What kind of family dynamics does she come from? EVERY chick I have ever known that plays head games comes from a volatile family background that has pulled out the rug from under her. I am "Mr. Armchair Psychologist" whereas most guys just take things at face value.
Here's the deal: you have a lot to offer so don't allow yourself to be treated in a manner you find less than acceptable. Ignore her. Just ignore her. She will come back. Guys need to learn to take back the upper hand. I was raised by my Dad -- not my Mom. Every family is different. My Dad wasn't the type of person to take this kind of crap. My brother will (from his wife) but I won't. I "walk" relatively easily (probably not a good thing, though).
The only chick who is worthwhile is one who does not put you through these ups and downs. Try to look for someone who is sort of a "constant" -- i.e. her personality doesn't fluctuate up and down.
Another reason she could be such a bitch is because she might sense you need/like her more than she does you. I don't know if this is the case. If you want to hang on, you will have to defuse this. If not, you are free to "walk." Just don't tell her what you are analyzing -- go stealth on this one.
Mustang, when I was in college, this sort of thing happened because I perceived I was being done a favor or it was a privilege to go out with a certain chick. As I got older and more sure of myself, I think I am doing them the favor...in some cases. It's nice when you consider who you are dating an equal so you don't have to have that feeling...this is the case when you are on the same plateau in terms of attainment, personality, confidence and general level of appearance.
Last night I was sitting at Starbucks and this girl starts talking to me. She is Italian and from the East Bay (SF suburbs). She was 26 years old and fairly attractive. I was thinking "too young." She and another girl were talking about whether guys should have girls as friends. They asked me. I said no, that it's a conflict of interests. This made her more interested. She kept talking more and digging herself into more of a hole. She told me she was going through a divorce (AT 26???), that her husband was someone she fell in love with because the partying and the booze was good 3 years ago, and that she is IN MANAGEMENT (bfd) at Starbucks (though not that store but for the area). I asked her about finishing college (i.e. a business degree)..."Oh well, I don't need that, I'm in management and I'm going to go far." She got up one time and I noticed two tats on the back of her calves and I'm thinking "Man, I was this A student, coat and tie type, conservative and clean cut, I wouldn't even go near this DB." That is a chick that I was doing a favor for if I went out with her. Sorry to those of you who might take offense. But it is uncesored "what is on my mind."
Mustang, my best advice is to look for girls you are attracted to that treat you well and where you sense that neither of you likes the other more/less. Be stealth about the whole thing and report back. Keep the chin up, dude.