Hey, I had this friend going back to the mid-90s. She's actually a licensed architect, but she is ROUGH around the edges...more of a construction trailer lady than an architect in an office. I only befriended her because we had work things in common..and our paths would have never crossed had it not been for that.
Even though she is ROUGH, she is married, but her marriage is very screwed up from what I can see. It's like a roommate marriage.
Here's the basic problem: when she heads for lower ground, I tend to straighten her out (if she asks me advice or tells about her ridiculous predicaments). That is, I told her to take her stupid licensing exam, to fight for the right pay and correct expense reimbursements at work, and stuff that would lift her to a higher perch. On the other hand, she tries to knock me off my perch. She has tried to set me up with chicks that no white collar guy would look at, as well as constantly send me ads for houses/condos she thinks I should buy. This happened last in July 2008 when, instead of hitting the "save draft" button, I hit the "send" button in reply to a message, telling her off and bordering on being cruel. I felt bad...but there it went! In it, I told her how little I thought of her and how I had lost respect for her over the years.
Thinking I would never hear from her again and thinking "whew, what a relief," I check my e-mails last Friday and she sends me an e-mail (a) providing me with a general update of her whereabouts and changed work situation, and (b)...drum roll...that she told an acquaintance of hers about me, this chick's (list of attributes), and that she wants to meet me.
Her crossing of "boundaries" in the last few years was the END of the friendship. She tries to come back around and has the same M.O. I think she is really dense. She is so shut down, she must have been abused as a child. What would you do? Have you had this happen to you? I have chosen to ignore her, but am asking what to do if she persists with e-mails. Any similar stories? Why does someone who was so strongly told off come around again? There are so many 'effed up people out there.