Yeah, reg, I hear you. I'm harshly realistic and some people don't want to hear the unfiltered view.
A lady who works across the hall from me has started opening up, telling me about how she'd like to move back to where she's from and her past life/work experiences. She told me she's only had problems with catty women in the workforce and NEVER with men. I asked NEVER? She said NEVER. I was taken aback, never thinking I'd hear something like this from her since she's assertive, an athlete (cyclist) and highly educated.
Here's what I've seen in the work force, especially when it's a pyramid-shaped professional services firm when there are frequent written evaluations:
(a) Men NEVER treat women poorly *
(b) Men treat mean in an all-over the checkerboard manner (often depends on whether they share common interests, unfortunately)
(c ) Women treat women better than they would treat men (they seem to be threatened by professional childless women who have better credentials when they worked their way up and have less interesting credentials because they had kids earlier on)
(d) Women OFTEN treat men poorly (the most likely combo of these 4 for poor treatment) **
* we have to play the daddy role and "hold their hand" professionally - you can't believe to extent to which a few women who worked for me looked to me for mentorship, go figure
** I have seen it get to the point that senior management has commented that certain women caused certain men to cycle out of the firm/company who would have otherwise stayed
Even though the OP is about "date rape," to me, the whole head trip seems to align with these 4 scenarios.