I don't know about most states, but North Dakota has a law that when you're using your high beams, only those 2 lights can be on, no fogs. Also says that when your low beams are on, only 2 other lights can be on, so 4 total. Found this out when I had an extra set driving lights mounted on the bumper or a pickup and was driving one night with the low beams, the fogs, and the extra driving lights all on at the same time (didn't realize I had bumped the switch for the extra set) and met a cop. He gave me a warning and told me of the law.
As for DRLs and auto lights...why not, seriously? What is the problem? Yeah, most of us are smart enough to turn on our lights, but if you are that smart and you are just going to turn them on every time the car is going to turn them on, then why not just have it do it for you? What is the problem with making your car more visible to others? I love that my car does it for me, even though I'm smart enough to know when I would need them on. It is nice to have the option of turning them off though. I can in the Suburban with the headlight switch, and can in the Impala by pushing in the parking brake just a tad, but I never have to do it often. It is just nice to be able to turn them off when you are parked somewhere with the vehicle running and don't want them on, or when I'm pulling up the house and don't want to shine my headlights in the windows as I pull in. (or when your trying to lose the cops out in the country....jk)
As for ABS, I really think that it is a personal choice. I have always had them in my daily driver so it is pretty much all I know and therefor wouldn't want to NOT have them. I know many drivers that would rather not have them, and I think they would be just as effective of drivers without them.
The bottom line is that there are some stupid drivers out there and they are on the road. Having DRLs on your car makes you more visible to other drivers, no matter what time of the day it is. I don't know how anyone can logically argue that DRLs don't help out.