MEN AND MONOGAMY

[regfootball]

http://movies.msn.com/movies/hotgossip/8-09-07_3?GT1=7701

"As primal beings, men are not supposed to be monogamous," the actress, 28, deep thoughts to Harper's Bazaar. "When people ask, 'Do you believe in monogamy?' Well, of course that's what you want. But part of what I love about men is that it's hard for them to be monogamous."

Continuing with her lemonade from two-timing lemons rationale, Kate posits, "Women, I think, need to spend more time understanding men than changing men. And vice versa."

wow, she just shot up the babeometer, despite the non existent rack. woohoo!

[daves87rs]

[Oracle of Delphi]

Hmmm, this brings me to an incident that happened to me tonight. We went out tonight and met up with about 20 friends and assorted spouses. We all went to a dinner dance place that we all like here locally.

One of my friend's wife, started coming on to me, standing in back of me and leaning over me as I ate asking me to come dance with her. She has a great rack too, and let's just say as she leaned next to me, there was body contact.

She drags me up on the dance floor and dances so close to me that even the Holy Ghost couldn't get between us. All this in front of my wife, her husband (who is a special forces guy) and our common assorted friends, who some were turning so red because of how sexual her dancing had become.

This was so unexpected and not like her normally but she had been drinking (I don't know how much), and we socialize with these people often throughout the year as I said as a group of 20 (10 couples) or so. Her husband was fuming and still she kept draging me up on the dance floor. It became the talk of the evening of our group after they left. All agreed I was not to blame, and I actually was minding my own business when it started.

I asked my wife if she were upset when we got in the GP, she answered "No, because who you're going home with is me, so why be upset?"

With that, I turned the Grand Prix on and headed for home.

[regfootball]

LOL

maybe it should have been a swingers night. but i bet your wife will think you are hotter than ever now.

i was a groomsmen in a buddy's wedding a few years ago. my friend's brother was living with a major skank chick who was quite the slut. she was hot though. anyways, she decided she was going to hit on me all night, something that did not go unnoticed by my wife and many others.

she was hot.

anyways, so to antagonize my wife, she struck up a conversation with my wife and out comes 'i hope you don't mind me talking to your husband, i just can't stay away from him tonight, especially in that tux. i hope you don't mind. i know it just drives me crazy when i see another woman talking to my mike'.

my wife is like, 'mind? no, it's a not a problem at all. i know with certainty who he is going to be f-cking tonight'.

LOL

funnies aside, its interesting how every man i know, straight or gay, all of them would (if they don't already) try for it / get it on the side except that they realize monogamy is important to keep their current relationship in tact. that said, i don't think i know of any married straights they have an agreement on open relationship (rumor is that one girl at work may have agreed to an open relationship) and i really don't know too many gay friend couples although my one buddy who is gay made it sound like he and his bf the only way it works as a couple for them is an open relationship, just conjecture on my part.

in the end, it definitely seems to be something you'd both have to agree on. i just found it funny in KH's quote that she is actually being somewhat accepting of this. I am curious to wonder how many women think like men but just don't admit it.

Edited August 12, 2007 by regfootball

[thegriffon]

Well, 10% of kids in any culture are not fathered by their mother's husband (irrespective of the general level of fidelity), and a woman is more likely to commit adultery during ovulation.

That men have more partners than women is a bogus statistic. Given that there are roughly equal numbers of men and women, then on average they must both have the same number of partners. The only thing that can vary is the distribution, i.e. a few women may have a great many more partners than average, while a lot more men have a few more partners than average.

[regfootball]

translation. women want as much on the side as men. you just don't hear about it?

[Drew Dowdell]

straight guys just don't hear about it

fixed

[CARBIZ]

You are not going to overcome a hundred million years of evolution in a few thousand years of social conditioning. Why are most of the rapists men? Why does a 13 year old boy want to hump everything that moves, but a 13 year old girl thinks it's icky? Why do men love porno, but most women could care less? The list goes on and on.

To study sexuality, you need to study gay relationships. Speaking from a position of authority, many women just marry off and disappear into the suburbs or the country. The dykes are more into the cuddling, kissing and 'playing house' aspect of the relationship - plus, their relationships tend to last longer (even decades) than their gay counterparts. Gay male relationships, on the other hand, are more about the sex, the physicality of it, if you will. I have friends who have had THOUSANDS of partners. Me, myself - I couldn't even begin to count my partners either. It is extremely rare that two gay men are monogamous after the first two or three years, but then the same thing can be said about straight men, it's just that they lie about it.

[regfootball]

You are not going to overcome a hundred million years of evolution in a few thousand years of social conditioning. Why are most of the rapists men? Why does a 13 year old boy want to hump everything that moves, but a 13 year old girl thinks it's icky? Why do men love porno, but most women could care less? The list goes on and on.

To study sexuality, you need to study gay relationships. Speaking from a position of authority, many women just marry off and disappear into the suburbs or the country. The dykes are more into the cuddling, kissing and 'playing house' aspect of the relationship - plus, their relationships tend to last longer (even decades) than their gay counterparts. Gay male relationships, on the other hand, are more about the sex, the physicality of it, if you will. I have friends who have had THOUSANDS of partners. Me, myself - I couldn't even begin to count my partners either. It is extremely rare that two gay men are monogamous after the first two or three years, but then the same thing can be said about straight men, it's just that they lie about it.

'marry off and disappear into the suburbs or the country' LOL

i just wonder if at least there isn't a notably sized group of women that are as wantonly unomongamous as a typical male, just that they cannot be up front about it. Although, i think when a woman wants to become unmonogamous, it probably has as much to do with emotional reasons where men i think its as you said, its programmed into their physicality. Many women use sex as a tool to correct whatever else it is they are unhappy about.

[Z-06]

This was so unexpected and not like her normally but she had been drinking (I don't know how much),.

Tequila makes her clothes fall off!

[Sixty8panther]

That's one thing I LOVE about Julie... she's got a pretty "modern" mindset.

[Oracle of Delphi]

That's one thing I LOVE about Julie... she's got a pretty "modern" mindset.

Hmmmmmm!

[Sixty8panther]

I can not disclose more.... at this time.

[regfootball]

just admit you achieved the 'trifecta' and make us atta boy ya.

[Sixty8panther]

Not yet but I'm workin' on it.

My chances are VERY good with Julie.... with Marcia

it was always that carrot at the end of the rope.

[regfootball]

makes me think you have some sort of back door agenda going on.

[knightfan26917]

*sighs*

What is this sex and relationship stuff ya'll are talkin' about?

Heh ... a friend of mine told me the other day that I need to finally "get some" ... then I'd be more relaxed and tolerant. Relaxed, yes. Tolerant ... depends on the topic.

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[Drew Dowdell]

"get some" in the hookup kinda way.... eh

"get some" in the make love sorta way.... probably