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Once Upon A Lifetime

knightfan26917

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I wonder if we've all done this, at least to some extent. Someone we know, perhaps love and/or care very much about, or perhaps even just know through media outlets, dies ... and we say "He/she will be missed" and/or "We'll never forget him/her" ... because of how they treated and/or respected us ... and/or changed our life in some way/shape/fashion. But, life continues and, gradually, the feeling of loss lessens. Then, somewhere down the line, you find something or read or see or hear something that, instantaneously, reminds you of that person. For that matter, it doesn't even have to be a death. Maybe it's an old friend with whom we've lost touch ... or an event (sporting or otherwise) that captured our attention and was very important to us at the time....

In going through my old files, I found some old newspaper clippings ... some of sporting events (Cubs games, the Bulls' World Championships, The Bears' Super Bowl Shuffle lyrics) and others of people I've known (friends and family). One group of clippings, in particular, included columns of Gene Seymour, along with several articles about him and his death. Seymour was a longtime sports columnist for the newspapers of the then Copley News who took an interest in my writings during my college days. I never met him, but I spoke with him several times while I was employed by The CourierNews, a Copley newspaper. Finding the old articles and letters jarred me ... and it was weird how those days suddenly flashed in my memory as if they were just yesterday. Yet, at the same time, they felt like a lifetime ago....

This, along with some events of this past week, reminded me of how short and fragile life is ... and how much we sometimes miss because we are sssooo busy. Too many times we argue and bicker and fight ... and then only seem to realize the good in others once we can no longer share time with them ... or, for that matter, tell them how much they mean to us and/or how they've shaped our lives.

*shrugs*

Maybe it's just me ... but, it's frustrating that it feels impossible to tell EVERYONE in my life (parents, sister, bro-in-law, aunts/uncles/cousins, grandparents, friends, etc.) just how much they mean to me, etc. Yet ... at the same time, those that are close to me, I'm sure, already KNOW this ... despite arguments/fights/hurt feelings that happen in between the good times. At least ... I hope they do anyway.... It's ironic how the meanings and good feelings are sometimes hard to express, but the hurtful things are so freekin' easy to display....

So....am I the only one that feels this? Or, do you have people in your life that you've "forgotten" ... or that you know understand how you feel without telling them ... or that, perhaps, you wonder if they really do know?

Just some food for thought....

Cort:33swm."Mr Monte Carlo.Mr Road Trip".pig valve.pacemaker

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"I never meant to leave you alone" ... Michael Martin Murphy ... 'Don't Count The Rainy Days'

z28luvr01 Newbie

z28luvr01

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I have pretty much made a lifetime out of this. Sometimes it seems like I go through each period in my life with blinders on, not always enjoying the present and those who are in it, instead focusing on a particular goal or achievement. There's a stadium full of people who have shaped who I am, and they all deserve a big thank you.

Camino LS6 Newbie

Camino LS6

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This is a universal, and very human, feeling.

I will say,though, that I have set myself up to be VERY busy for quite a while and that I'm enjoying being busy. Though I should be feeling overwhelmed with all that needs to be done in a short period of time, I'm not. In fact, I feel less stressed than I have in a long time.

Amongst all of this I remember the small things about those I have lost, and their essential humanity comes back to me as clearly as it did when they were still here.

Endlessly amazing and yet completely simple, this is what it means to be alive knowing that you are mortal after all.

knightfan26917 Apprentice

knightfan26917

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There's a stadium full of people who have shaped who I am, and they all deserve a big thank you.

*nods*

About the same for me....

And, Camino ... didn't really mean that BUSY meant BAD. Hmmm....sorry if it seemed that way. I meant more along the lines that the busier we are ... the more opportunities we miss. If that makes any more sense....

*rolls eyes*

Sorry .... guess this was a bit too deep ... just seems sometimes that only the negative seems to be captured.....

*shrugs*

But, I'm glad I'm not the only one....

Cort:33swm."Mr Monte Carlo.Mr Road Trip".pig valve.pacemaker

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"Time is a valuable thing" ... Linkin Park ... 'In The End'

Camino LS6 Newbie

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Cort:

I don't feel negatively about it at all! In a way, it is comforting because you know that your still Human when you feel like that.

Oh, and I didn't mean to imply anything about your use of "busy" it just hit me that Ive been thinking that way lately.

translation: It's cool!

knightfan26917 Apprentice

knightfan26917

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translation: It's cool!

*chuckles*

Love the short summation ;). he he

And, thanks. Yes, feeling human IS a good sign ;).

Ironically, I had a surprise waiting for me when I visited the First Gen MC club site:

http://www.firstgenerationmontecarlo.com/index.html

[Note the Quote Of The Week at the top right corner.]

The thread, ironically, is about the son of a buddy of mine ... who has been having some heart issues recently. For me ... that just goes to show how life really is a "web" of sorts ... and how, sometimes, anyway, the good things can overcome the bad...........

Er ... or something like that ;).

Cort:33swm."Mr Monte Carlo.Mr Road Trip".pig valve.pacemaker

PICS:lego.HO.model.MCinfo.RT.CHD = http://www.chevyasylum.com/cort

"It's time to take a leap of faith" ... Steven Curtis Chapman ... 'Dive'

american_revolution_2005 Newbie

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I know exactly what you are talking about. I get constantly reminded of everything and it has been especially worse this year with my parents' divorce, my 2 relatives that lost their life to Leukemia this year and an uncle that is third, now in the hospital for Leukemia. Honestly, I always reflect on who has influenced me and I definitely look back on things I regret. Right now, things are tough but I have never really lost it. I have a couple times but that is because I box up all my emotions. When I lose control of my emotions, I go car shopping or at least look at cars to take my mind off of things. My love for cars is probably why I am still alive and me knowing that I have a goal I want to make. I have had it since I was 6 or 7 and I have never shyed away from it. Unfortunately, life has come at me hard lately. It has been affecting my drawing too. All the leukemia cases came within weeks of each other and that took a lot away. My grandma also lost 2 brothers in 2 months early this year which has definitely taken its toll.

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Thanks. It has been a lot and I am guessing the Leukemia is just in the gene pool of our family. I just heard that my other uncle who just went into the hospital is recovering a bit so that is good. My other 2 relatives both had it terminally since it was too late.

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