What Should I Do???

[american_revolution_2005]

Lately I have been suffering from depression. I haven't felt like drawing so I don't know if I will enter the BRX contest but I have my entry done before I started feeling depressed. After I got back from Woodward, a few days after getting back, I started feeling depressed. It gradually keeps on getting worse and people have just been fueling the fire. Peoples stupidity lately haven't been helping. I have been losing my patience with most people and I have been secluding myself from everyone because I just want my own time. I havent talked to anyone lately or just not felt like talking. I have also been getting constant headaches and I believe it is from stress. I haven't even slept lately without waking up 8 or 9 times in the night. I don't know what I should do. The only people I have mentioned it to is on here and to my parents. I haven't mentioned it to my friends and they are starting to catch on that something is wrong. One of our friends was killed last year in a car accident but they know that isn't it because we aren't as depressed about that. We still miss them but it was March or April I cant remember what the date was. The divorce is also messing with me as well. Most of my problems revolve around that. I don't know everything that is making me depreesed and stressed out. Pretty much everything has been making me mad. I don't know if I should see a therapist or a psychiatrist or not. My dad feels they are crooks and are unnecessary. He says I'll eventually get over it. The only thing is I dont know when eventually is and it gradually keeps on getting worse. If anybody has gone through this or has some advice about it please tell me.

[Flybrian]

You can make an Uncyclopedia entry about Buickman to make you feel better!

[Croc]

Just go have fun. The less free time you allow yourself, the less time you mind has to drift back onto unsettling stuff.

Got a job? A club or sport you can devote all your time to? Take up working out like it's your job?

If you have physical stress, working out is the best way to get over it.

[american_revolution_2005]

I dont even know who Buickman is. The thing is I really don't want to have fun. It's like I want to but my mind or something limits me away from it and I just don't get to doing it. It just hasn't been a great time and I am going to snap at anybody pretty soon. Things have been making me mad as well because people taking their time has put me extremely over the top. My guidance wont take me in to change a course because they put me in a "challenged" English class. It is the wrong place for me. I was honour roll last year and an academic student in all subjects. I dont know why they put me in the wrong level. I could understand one level down by accident but 3 levels. I got a 90 in Academic English and they put me 3 levels lower. We fill out our forms for classes but I know I filled it out right. They just messed up bigtime with the computer system.

Edited September 10, 2006 by american_revolution_2005

[FAPTurbo]

You can just go "emo" or "goth" and maybe that'll solve your problems ...

...Ok, sorry... but I'm with Croc on this one.

Jogging for half an hour will release endorphins. Ever have a "second wind?" That's your body releasing chemicals that help to regulate your mood.

So grab an mp3 player or CD player, stretch, and go for a nice jog around the neighbourhood, starting slow, and slowly building up... don't go sprinting or anything like that, and then at the end, slow down and walk.

Or, if you happen to have weights and a bench or have access to them, maybe take that up as well.

Although I have my workout scheduled, if I feel bad, I release my anger, pain, stress when exercising.

To be honest, you should try this and maybe other methods to check your depression before seeing a therapist. The last thing you want to do is take the mood altering drugs.

Hope it goes well. The site's pulling for you.

[NOS2006]

Dude, take a healthy $h!. That usually makes people feel better.

[american_revolution_2005]

I am definitely dont want to go emo or goth. Goths scare me and emos are just... something. And NOS, I dont think that would work. I am not even in the mood for anyones jokes or anything. I have been feeling bad since the 2nd last week of August. I really just need to get away from here. I may go live with my friend or go live with my aunt. The only problem is, my aunt who offered to take me in is my cousin's mother which I cant handle him anymore. I haven't talked to him since that conversation and I dont plan too. I would also have to change schools. I would rather live with my friend because I wouldn't have to switch schools. I really don't know what I'm going to do. I just can't handle being in this household anymore.

[Cory Wolfe]

Well... Antidepressants work wonders if you can wait the 6 or so weeks for them to fully kick in and can deal with certain side effects. Otherwise, agree with Croc. And NOS, that never works, you smartass.

[Croc]

I am definitely dont want to go emo or goth. Goths scare me and emos are just... something. And NOS, I dont think that would work. I am not even in the mood for anyones jokes or anything. I have been feeling bad since the 2nd last week of August. I really just need to get away from here. I may go live with my friend or go live with my aunt. The only problem is, my aunt who offered to take me in is my cousin's mother which I cant handle him anymore. I haven't talked to him since that conversation and I dont plan too. I would also have to change schools. I would rather live with my friend because I wouldn't have to switch schools. I really don't know what I'm going to do. I just can't handle being in this household anymore.

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OK you do realize you started a thread titled "What Should I Do???" and have subsequently shot down every suggestion mentioned without even trying it. So here is what you should do: quit your bitching and just get over it. You obviously are more interested in "venting" and complaining than you are in actually seeking a solution if you want to blame all your problems on everyone else yet you won't even TRY some of the worthwhile advice that has been posted on here.

I mean sucks your parents are getting a divorce, and sucks that your counselor put you in the wrong class...but be proactive about it instead of bitching. Bitching just makes you dwell on it, and it just gets you all worked up about it all over again. So quit it.

If your counselor won't fix your schedule, demand an explanation. State your case. Ask WHY you are stuck in a class that isn't right for you. If he won't budge or BSes you, go one level higher. Who is his boss? Again, state your case. If nothing happens at this point, get your parents involved. Finally, if nothing happens at this point, then just let it go and accept you will have one of the easiest A+s in your high school career.

Parents getting a divorce? Well yea lots of changes there and if they aren't being responsible and civil/amicable about it, that's really gonna be rough. If the home enviornment is hostile, make sure your friends are aware. I have yet to know a single friend who hasn't said "you can stay at my place tonight" if things are really that bad. Spend time AWAY from home and you won't have to be drawn into it all.

Get a job. Between school and work, you will minimize your time at home. You will also learn good time management skills that will benefit you for college as well as the rest of your life. Don't forget the money. Money is good, and it can buy you lots of stuff to make yourself feel better. Stressed? Save up for a massage by a hot chick (or dude if that's more your thing) at a local spa.

I'm serious about the exercising too. I recommend some cardio as well as weight training, with the emphasis on the weight training. Not only will the exercise help you reduce your stress levels, but your overall physical fitness will also improve. Health effects aside, your self-esteem will definitely increase due to your buffing up body and you will get POSITIVE attention from the people around you and at school.

Now...I don't wanna hear any more "but that won't work because..." out of you because those are excuses. Make improvements. Try some of these suggestions, and THEN get back to us.

Oh, one last thing: fake it. Fake being happy. Plaster the fakest smile on your face. Looking like a wet blanket will only garner negative attention and that's bad. Also, studies show that faking smiles actually improves your mood. People will want to be around you and ask how you're doing if you seem somewhat approachable, and looking sullen doesn't do that.

That is all for now.

[Flybrian]

Croc hopes to one day be confused with an important person...

[Guest YellowJacket894]

Croc hopes to one day be confused with an important person...

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Dr. Phil

Edited September 11, 2006 by YellowJacket894

[ocnblu]

I think your dad is right. Time heals. Maybe you two can ride this out together and become closer as the weeks go by until things settle into a new normality.

[american_revolution_2005]

I have considered some things you have said. I just cant work out or go for a run because my sister literally follows me everywhere. She is the cause of most of my problems as well as my family. I would like to go for a run by myself but my parents work and she cant even stay at the house by herself and she is 14. She is paranoid and I would love to go for a run but unfortunately I cant. I definitely dont want to try antidepressants because I dont trust them. Trust me I like your suggestion the best Croc but its a fact that the source of my problems will follow me. I also want to get a job but I have to wait because I need a job I can walk to.

[FAPTurbo]

Your sister is paranoid? Of what? People invading your home? Cat Burglers? al-Qaeda?

Sounds a little strange, considering in my experience most 14 year old girls often want to stay the hell away from their family...

If she's this big of a problem, lay it down for her and tell her to get some friends, or that you need to be alone...

I'm serious. If she's a big problem, then deal with her.

[Cadillacfan]

I think if all else fails, go see a specialist and just tell them all of your problems. You shouldn't have to keep depression to yourself. If you think it's bad, then it probably is. Go get help man. Depression is a serious problem. Sometimes, working out, getting a job won't do it.

[Croc]

Is your sister mentally challenged in some way? Not to pry, but that isn't normal. She needs the counseling, not you.

[Croc]

Croc hopes to one day be confused with an important person...

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Not really, just trying to help based on what I've gone through in life as well as my friends and in knowing what works/doesn't work.

Which is more than you can say you've added to this thread.

[Flybrian]

Which is more than you can say you've added to this thread.

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I can add whatever I want to this thread; its called Merge Posts.

[daves87rs]

I can add whatever I want to this thread; its called Merge Posts.

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[daves87rs]

Wow-that just sucks..

I can only add one thing-LAUGH.

You need to find a way to laugh-it might not make the pain go away, but it will help ease it....

Whatever it takes-even if you have to kick the cat or something...

Hope things improve...

[Turbojett]

Man, that really sucks. I have been through depression before--but that's actually when I cranked out drawings like nobody's business. I secluded myself too, but I kept my mind busy, listening to music, and pouring every ounce of concentration into the drawing. It sort of helped me drop off itno my own little world where I had no problems, no hounds, no nothing. Just me, my pencil, and a pretty little car.

Sometime, you just need that little fantasy world.

and don't mind everyone's joking on here. We're not doing it to dog you, we're just doing it to help you out make you feel better. We wanna get a smile out of you at least.

SMILE.

C'MON. SMILE.

[american_revolution_2005]

I would try laughing but I can't. Usually everything including the stupidist things make me laugh but lately I havent been able to. My sister isnt mentally challenged even though I have a suspicion. She is afraid of who knows what. She has friends but will not invite them over just to annoy me.

[FAPTurbo]

So. . . your sister doesn't invite her friends just to annoy you?. . . I figure having a bunch of screechy 14 year old's in my house would be plenty annoying.

Ok, so it sounds as if she is actually making time to annoy you, which can't be be good. It could be her way of venting about the divorce, or worse. I'm just throwing this out there, but maybe she feels it's your fault, or hers.

Either way, I do suggest you get jogging at least. So she wants to come? Let her. I'll bet she doesn't the 3rd of 4th time. Just jam your headphones in your ears, and go your own pace. If she can't keep up. . . tough $h!. She'll find her way home.

Even if you just step outside, you'll feel better.

[Croc]

Either way, I do suggest you get jogging at least. So she wants to come? Let her. I'll bet she doesn't the 3rd of 4th time. Just jam your headphones in your ears, and go your own pace. If she can't keep up. . . tough $h!. She'll find her way home.

Even if you just step outside, you'll feel better.

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Exactly. That's being proactive.

[american_revolution_2005]

I may actually just try sneaking out for a jog. I did it today and it was good. She started yelling at me when I got back but oh well. She can learn to stay by herself. I did, 7 years ago.